I'm back home after a week away, and I have a bunch of pages to post.
I had planned to be away for the week, but it turned out that my wife's grandmother passed away two days before we went, and I attended the funeral. I have titled this diary series "def in Japan," but I haven't put much Japanese culture in. The reason is, I'm Canadian, and I'm beyond the culture shock. Still, I can be caught off guard.
This was my first funeral here. There are ceremonial differences from region to region, but it is the law that all bodies be cremated here. We attended a Buddhist service, the body was shown, we all placed flowers in the casket. A private bus took us to a crematorium. We prayed again, and watched the casket enter the cremator. Then we ate bentos (lunch boxes) for half an hour. Then we went back to the cremator room and were presented with the remains, with lots of bones left over. We then took turns putting them in a box to be ground down by the immediate family. The remains were wrapped up, and brought back to the temple for a final prayer.
It was a unique experience, and a day of lots of inner thought.
This must be one of the most unsettling entry in your diary, I must say. Quite the culture shock.